There are a lot of people we try to please on a daily basis, family, employees, employers, friends, strangers, clients, potential clients, church, pastors, mentors, God and a lot of others. Have you ever noticed that the more you try to please someone the more you start to change? You start looking in the mirror and see them instead of yourself. Before making decisions you ask what they would do. Then to be safe you err on the side of your interpretation of what they would do. Then if you are lucky, fifty percent of the time, you may do what is right in their eyes. As your percentage of accuracy increases or decreases your self esteem tags along. This continues on until you ask yourself the question, “Who am I?” Why is it that if we all know that we are all different, why do we try so hard to be the same? We have all lead different lives with different experiences. For us to be productive in our actions we need to learn to understand each other’s uniqueness while being real to ourselves. It is only by being real to others and ourselves all the time that we can gain common ground and work together successfully. Some of the perks of being real are that we avoid misunderstandings, we reduce unpredictability and build strong relationships. When we are who God made us to be, our self esteem and confidence increase. We are at peace and have joy in our heart in whatever we do. This doesn’t mean that we get to go out and do whatever we want, but what it means is that we need to utilize the gifts and talents that God has given each of us. We need to respect others and work together in ways that allow each of us to be real. Remember that we will always have good and bad days, but by being real it allows us to avoid a whole lot of the self-inflicted bad days. So make a change, be yourself.